Coming out can be hard-- here’s some advice if you haven’t done it but want to. But also remember that it’s a flawed framework that doesn’t work for everyone! Lesbians need to have safe sex too! Our best friends (though they don’t know it) at autostraddle have a great illustrated guide to lesbian safe sex. Dental dams are a great and underused tool. In this story, as in life, men are trash! If you’re in a controlling relationship (whether it’s with a man or not), there’s resources and support for you. The Revolution Starts At Home is specifically targeted towards intimate violence in activist communities, but offers broad resources for everyone on how to address abuse and create conditions for safety without relying on the state.