Kink/BDSM

If you’re looking to try kink/BDSM, consent and safety practices are important! Luckily, there are a lot of resources out there to get you started:

  • Kink 101 Resources
  • A useful app for you and your partner to see where your fetishes overlap
  • A podcast discussing kink from a queer perspective
  • And of course, there’s always an autostraddle page!

Many people have written about finding healing in safe and consensual BDSM practices. Although abuse can exist in sub/dom relationships, safe words, agreed upon scenarios, and ongoing and intimate consent practices make it fun for everyone.

Here’s some info on  safe bondage practices. Whenever you tie someone up, make sure you can slip two fingers between them and the restraint to make sure it’s not too tight. Also, the more tightly you bind someone, the less time they can spend in that position. Babeland has good resources on spanking, and of course, if you’re engaging in choking it’s so so important to do it safely! Always use a safe word–and if you’re experimenting with choking or other forms of verbal restraint, it’s also good to come up with a non-verbal signal.

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