In this story, the narrator and Riley use several sex toys. For an introduction to sex toys, including vibrators, dildos, and best practices for toy care, check out Good Vibrations. They also use bondage tape, which is a great material that won’t cause pain or damage. It sticks to itself and not your skin! And it’s always important to use safe bondage practices, such as checking tightness of restraints. The narrator and Riley engage in some mild BDSM and intentional power play. Babeland has good resources on spanking, and of course, autostraddle has some great resources gathered on BDSM more broadly. If you’re looking to try kink/BDSM, consent and safety practices are important! Luckily, there are a lot of resources out there to get you started: - Kink 101 Resources - A useful app for you and your partner to see where your fetishes overlap - A podcast discussing kink from a queer perspective - And of course, there’s always an autostraddle page! Many people have written about finding healing in safe and consensual BDSM practices. Although abuse can exist in sub/dom relationships, the narrator and Riley show how to use safe words, agreed upon scenarios, and ongoing and intimate consent practices to make it fun for everyone. Both of the people in this story had a conversation a few hours before they actually had sex, in order to make clear what they both wanted, and figure out what they were going to do. This is a good move if you’re trying to do any form of BDSM, or any sex at all! And if you want to record it, make sure that’s consensual too. Both people agreed to the recording beforehand, and have agreed to the audio being put online. Aaaaaand here’s a Buzzfeed quiz to help you find out if you’re a top or bottom.